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Post by hondobrode on May 4, 2015 22:43:49 GMT -5
God Shax, I've heard things like this from my ex-wife and a few sister-in-laws as well.
Of course it's going to be awkward with her birthday and the current state of your relationship, but try to hang on and walk the higher road, like you do, and let's see what Wednesday brings.
My ex brought up all kinds of things in the past and kept beating me with them. The problem with that is, "What can we do about the past other than make sure it doesn't happen again, and I'm sorry, again. How often do we have to do this ?"
The counselor will definitely be a great step. At least she's willing. My ex was not.
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2015 1:35:28 GMT -5
This is why I'm single. I don't have near the patience for that.
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Post by Confessor on May 5, 2015 4:40:59 GMT -5
There is so much sad in this thread.  Damn right. Seems like like almost everybody's having a pretty rough time of it at the moment. Personally, I'm fine and very happy with life, but man...I'm really feeling for those in this thread that aren't. |
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Post by Icctrombone on May 5, 2015 5:35:32 GMT -5
Man is born into trouble as surely as sparks fly upwards. If you're not in a challenge , you'll get one in time. Not being negative, but in life stuff happens.
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Post by the4thpip on May 5, 2015 6:18:40 GMT -5
I am quite happy about the 6 day train strike Deutsche Bahn is staging this week.
Why, you ask?
Well, I have an hourly train from my town to where I work because it's one of the few lines not operated by DB but a smaller carrier.
The other line is the one going from my town to where my newly ex-boyfriend works.
There is no train from where he lives to where he works. He usually stayed at my place during train strikes.
Betcha he wishes he'd postponed the breakup by a week now.
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2015 6:23:34 GMT -5
There is so much sad in this thread. Damn right. Seems like like almost everybody's having a pretty rough time of it at the moment. Personally, I'm fine and very happy with life, but man...I'm really feeling for those in this thread that aren't. Me, too. To all those in emotional pain in this thread: I'm really sorry for what you are going through. Shax, I do not have words, but I think it's great that you are sharing this with the rest of us. You sound as though you are doing all you can in your situation. I know waiting until Wednesday for counseling seems like waiting an eternity, but I hope that it helps you and your wife. <3 |
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Post by wildfire2099 on May 5, 2015 7:55:21 GMT -5
If I had the power to do such things, I would name you a saint. Seriously, the way you seem to be able to just take all this in stride is inspiring. I hope it all pays off you and your family. Well, to be fair, that's the story as told from my perspective, but thank you. I'm not perfect, but I'm trying as hard as I know how. So Shax, the question is... WHY are you trying so hard? Is it for your kid(s)?(I remember you've talked about your daughter...) If you're truly doing all the compromising in the relationship, and it's still not making either of you happy, maybe ending it is the way to go? When you mentioned 'counseling' is that a family thing, or hers, or yours? They do have good family counselors, though I suspect if what you posted is true that wouldn't help that much. |
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2015 8:02:32 GMT -5
Well, to be fair, that's the story as told from my perspective, but thank you. I'm not perfect, but I'm trying as hard as I know how. So Shax, the question is... WHY are you trying so hard? Is it for your kid(s)?(I remember you've talked about your daughter...) If you're truly doing all the compromising in the relationship, and it's still not making either of you happy, maybe ending it is the way to go? Because he's stated he's not ready to give up. He'll know if/when he is.  |
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Post by impulse on May 5, 2015 9:22:57 GMT -5
Ugh, so sorry, Shax. When you said depression it all made sense. As I was reading, I thought the things she said were irrational and unfair, and depression explains it. It can throw anyone off. I hope for your sake and everyone else's she is willing to accept and examine the problems and work on herself. While this is obviously from your perspective, it sounds as if you are doing all of the right things and making all of the compromises here. Hang in there, and I hope it goes well for you.
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Post by Rob Allen on May 5, 2015 11:22:25 GMT -5
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Post by DE Sinclair on May 5, 2015 11:43:09 GMT -5
I am quite happy about the 6 day train strike Deutsche Bahn is staging this week. Why, you ask? Well, I have an hourly train from my town to where I work because it's one of the few lines not operated by DB but a smaller carrier. The other line is the one going from my town to where my newly ex-boyfriend works. There is no train from where he lives to where he works. He usually stayed at my place during train strikes. Betcha he wishes he'd postponed the breakup by a week now. Remember, living well is the best revenge. |
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Post by adamwarlock2099 on May 5, 2015 12:58:39 GMT -5
Man is born into trouble as surely as sparks fly upwards. If you're not in a challenge , you'll get one in time. Not being negative, but in life stuff happens. ...which made me think of this ... Dinosauria, we Charles Bukowski born like this
into this
as the chalk faces smile
as Mrs. Death laughs
as the elevators break
as political landscapes dissolve
as the supermarket bag boy holds a college degree
as the oily fish spit out their oily prey
as the sun is masked
we are
born like this
into this
into these carefully mad wars
into the sight of broken factory windows of emptiness
into bars where people no longer speak to each other
into fist fights that end as shootings and knifings
born into this
into hospitals which are so expensive that it’s cheaper to die
into lawyers who charge so much it’s cheaper to plead guilty
into a country where the jails are full and the madhouses closed
into a place where the masses elevate fools into rich heroes
born into this
walking and living through this
dying because of this
muted because of this
castrated
debauched
disinherited
because of this
fooled by this
used by this
pissed on by this
made crazy and sick by this
made violent
made inhuman
by this
the heart is blackened
the fingers reach for the throat
the gun
the knife
the bomb
the fingers reach toward an unresponsive god
the fingers reach for the bottle
the pill
the powder
we are born into this sorrowful deadliness
we are born into a government 60 years in debt
that soon will be unable to even pay the interest on that debt
and the banks will burn
money will be useless
there will be open and unpunished murder in the streets
it will be guns and roving mobs
land will be useless
food will become a diminishing return
nuclear power will be taken over by the many
explosions will continually shake the earth
radiated robot men will stalk each other
the rich and the chosen will watch from space platforms
Dante’s Inferno will be made to look like a children’s playground
the sun will not be seen and it will always be night
trees will die
all vegetation will die
radiated men will eat the flesh of radiated men
the sea will be poisoned
the lakes and rivers will vanish
rain will be the new gold
the rotting bodies of men will stink in the dark wind
the last few survivors will be overtaken by new and hideous diseases
and the space platforms will be destroyed by attrition
the petering out of supplies
the natural effect of general decay
and there will be the most beautiful silence never heard
born out of that.
The sun still hidden there
awaiting the next chapter. |
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Post by the4thpip on May 5, 2015 13:09:24 GMT -5
I am quite happy about the 6 day train strike Deutsche Bahn is staging this week. Why, you ask? Well, I have an hourly train from my town to where I work because it's one of the few lines not operated by DB but a smaller carrier. The other line is the one going from my town to where my newly ex-boyfriend works. There is no train from where he lives to where he works. He usually stayed at my place during train strikes. Betcha he wishes he'd postponed the breakup by a week now. Remember, living well is the best revenge. I was gonna go with "leave chocolate smudges all over his Silver Age X-Men books" but yours works, too. |
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Post by the4thpip on May 5, 2015 13:11:56 GMT -5
My favorite breakup song from my favorite movie:  |
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Post by adamwarlock2099 on May 5, 2015 14:55:01 GMT -5
Damn spider in my water cup! That shows he's an evil purportrator. He got all the way from the outside, into the warehouse, then into the office, and then onto my desk, and then had to crawl into my water cup! Evil creatures! He's probably out there right now in the warehouse laughing at me from where I threw the cup.
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