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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2021 14:07:43 GMT -5
Well, dangit, if someone has something go right today, feel free to share it. um. . . .
I went on a "date" with my Spouse yesterday (to Chili's) - but it was rare, and we had a wonderful time.
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Post by adamwarlock2099 on Jun 7, 2021 14:26:21 GMT -5
Sorry to hear both of these stories, adamwarlock2099 . Your wife's grandmother sounds as if she must have been a warm and wonderful person, and I think you're right. That her death was peaceful and painless is indeed a blessing for her and for all of you. As for the painful conversations about suicide by those young women, I wish I had even an attempt at an answer. We often comfort ourselves with the truism that "children are resilient," but to use that as an excuse to load even more stress and trauma onto the lives of kids is wrong. Our culture, society, ethos, whatever you want to call it, has added increasing amounts of pressure to the lives of kids, usually to satisfy the needs of adults. Quick example: As a teacher, I have long been a cynic about the rush for standardized testing for kids from first grade through high school. When, about 20 years ago, statewide testing began here, various Babbitts came to each classroom with goodie bags of pencils and erasers and a gumdrop or two to "show their support" of the kids, complete with banal proclamations that "we're proud of you," "we're counting on you," "we know you'll do well." It was clear that as far as administrators, politicians and Chamber of Commerce types were concerned, our kids were battling with other kids in other towns for bragging rights to the notion that our educational system was better than those of our neighboring towns, because numbers on a print-out, the sacred "data" said so. That data would translate into higher real estate prices, business investment, students from other towns invoking school choice to attend our schools (and bring the tuition paid by their hometowns, of course). To them, our students were cannon fodder in the battle for the almighty buck. They could not have cared less about the damage such testing did and does to true education. Let that serve in miniature for the lack of regard our nation has for kids and their education. Keep talking to those kids, adam. Trust me, you're a beacon of hope for them. Yes she very much was. For the most part all of her family accepted me as their own and I was really lucky to marry into the family I did. I think it helped all of us deal with her death better visiting her Memorial Day and knowing that she needed to go to a better place because her body and mind were almost gone. It makes it easier, at least for me, to not have the selfish feeling of wanting someone to hold on only because you don't want to say goodbye. Suicide scares me. I know suicide jokes are made, and someone people use them to cope. But with a wife with bipolar and depression it's hard not to worry. She's said she's never tried it but has had the thoughts. It absolutely frightens me, because in some low or some mania ..... and I don't want to live without her. I may not know what to say to these young folks, as I am no councilor. But maybe I can talk them into seeing someone that can council them and help. To know their lives have worth even if the people around them aren't helping.
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Post by Prince Hal on Jun 7, 2021 16:05:42 GMT -5
Sorry to hear both of these stories, adamwarlock2099 . Your wife's grandmother sounds as if she must have been a warm and wonderful person, and I think you're right. That her death was peaceful and painless is indeed a blessing for her and for all of you. As for the painful conversations about suicide by those young women, I wish I had even an attempt at an answer. We often comfort ourselves with the truism that "children are resilient," but to use that as an excuse to load even more stress and trauma onto the lives of kids is wrong. Our culture, society, ethos, whatever you want to call it, has added increasing amounts of pressure to the lives of kids, usually to satisfy the needs of adults. Quick example: As a teacher, I have long been a cynic about the rush for standardized testing for kids from first grade through high school. When, about 20 years ago, statewide testing began here, various Babbitts came to each classroom with goodie bags of pencils and erasers and a gumdrop or two to "show their support" of the kids, complete with banal proclamations that "we're proud of you," "we're counting on you," "we know you'll do well." It was clear that as far as administrators, politicians and Chamber of Commerce types were concerned, our kids were battling with other kids in other towns for bragging rights to the notion that our educational system was better than those of our neighboring towns, because numbers on a print-out, the sacred "data" said so. That data would translate into higher real estate prices, business investment, students from other towns invoking school choice to attend our schools (and bring the tuition paid by their hometowns, of course). To them, our students were cannon fodder in the battle for the almighty buck. They could not have cared less about the damage such testing did and does to true education. Let that serve in miniature for the lack of regard our nation has for kids and their education. Keep talking to those kids, adam. Trust me, you're a beacon of hope for them. Yes she very much was. For the most part all of her family accepted me as their own and I was really lucky to marry into the family I did. I think it helped all of us deal with her death better visiting her Memorial Day and knowing that she needed to go to a better place because her body and mind were almost gone. It makes it easier, at least for me, to not have the selfish feeling of wanting someone to hold on only because you don't want to say goodbye. Suicide scares me. I know suicide jokes are made, and someone people use them to cope. But with a wife with bipolar and depression it's hard not to worry. She's said she's never tried it but has had the thoughts. It absolutely frightens me, because in some low or some mania ..... and I don't want to live without her. I may not know what to say to these young folks, as I am no councilor. But maybe I can talk them into seeing someone that can council them and help. To know their lives have worth even if the people around them aren't helping. You'd be surprised at how little kindness and respect people are shown, so whatever you say to them or do for them is an act of kindness and concern, the kind of act they may not be very familiar with. So councilor or not, you may be giving them not only what they need, but a example of how to make sense of the world.
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Post by The Captain on Jun 7, 2021 16:30:58 GMT -5
For all the folks going through rough times right now, I'm thinking about and praying for you all. We all go through seasons (I'm still in one with my parents, going on 18 months now), but eventually it will pass. Hang in there everyone, and if anyone needs to talk or vent in private, just PM me.
As for myself, I got my first Pfizer shot today around noon. Feel fine right now, but have to reschedule my second shot, which the hospital wanted to do on July 1. I'm supposed to be visiting family in Indiana that weekend and leaving Friday morning, and after losing my long Easter weekend holiday to the actual virus, I'm not getting screwed out of a five-day break.
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Post by impulse on Jun 7, 2021 16:42:52 GMT -5
Yes she very much was. For the most part all of her family accepted me as their own and I was really lucky to marry into the family I did. I think it helped all of us deal with her death better visiting her Memorial Day and knowing that she needed to go to a better place because her body and mind were almost gone. It makes it easier, at least for me, to not have the selfish feeling of wanting someone to hold on only because you don't want to say goodbye. Suicide scares me. I know suicide jokes are made, and someone people use them to cope. But with a wife with bipolar and depression it's hard not to worry. She's said she's never tried it but has had the thoughts. It absolutely frightens me, because in some low or some mania ..... and I don't want to live without her. I may not know what to say to these young folks, as I am no councilor. But maybe I can talk them into seeing someone that can council them and help. To know their lives have worth even if the people around them aren't helping. I hear you. I miss my grandmother on my mom's side very much. My dad's parents passed when I was pretty young, and my grandfather on my mom's side passed when I was just old enough to start having things in common with him. But my grandma was a fixture in my childhood, and my sister and I have fond memories of staying over. She suffered some big tragedies in life, outliving both her husband and her only son, but she never lost her zeal for life. She was an inspiration and is my sister's hero. I get busy with life and try not to dwell on the past, but every once in a while it hits me how much I miss her. She made it to her mid 80s and passed of complications from a broken hip. I would have loved to have more time with her, but at the same time, I have seen my wife's grandparents make it to their mid 90s, and just as you say, it's hard seeing their minds and bodies just wither away. I am glad she did not have to suffer through that. I hope this does not come across as me in any way trying to take attention from you. It's just got me thinking about things I don't find much time to think about often. I am glad your family got a sense of peace and closure about it. As for suicidal thoughts, I agree with Prince Hal. DO NOT sell yourself short. Sometimes just spending time with someone and actually taking time to talk with them so they can see that someone on this earth gives a f**k that they exist can be huge. Being a listening ear and guiding them to a professional could literally not just change but save their lives. Thank you for being there for strangers as well as your wife. They are lucky to have you.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2021 14:51:36 GMT -5
The sale of rpg material continues apace. I just sold 5 miniatures for D&D that we painted 10-15 years ago that I posted Sunday night for $35 each, about 4 times what we paid for them and after getting a lot of use over the years in our games. They had been on the shelf collecting dust the last 4-5 years though and we have switched over to the plastic pre-painted minis for ease of use, so they were expendable.
I don't expect it to last (even if we remain successful we have a finite amount of stuff to sell), but in the two weeks since I started selling, I have brought in more revenue than I was making full time at my previous job, barely more, but more. So it's a nice stopgap until I get all the medical stuff cleared and can look for work again.
-M
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Post by Icctrombone on Jun 9, 2021 5:35:27 GMT -5
Just wanted to give a shout out to @bert for his egg method which is working 99.9999 percent of the time.
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Jun 9, 2021 16:50:30 GMT -5
To all CCFers within reach of tomorrow's eclipse: don't forget, the show is an early one!
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Post by brutalis on Jun 9, 2021 17:28:24 GMT -5
To all CCFers within reach of tomorrow's eclipse: don't forget, the show is an early one! Not available in my area. 😭
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2021 17:42:42 GMT -5
Just wanted to give a shout out to @bert for his egg method which is working 99.9999 percent of the time. yer very welcome I'm just FULL of good ideas
(or full of. . . something) most days.
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Jun 9, 2021 17:51:40 GMT -5
To all CCFers within reach of tomorrow's eclipse: don't forget, the show is an early one! Not available in my area. 😭
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Post by The Captain on Jun 10, 2021 8:15:56 GMT -5
Just found out, totally through happenstance, that the coal-fired electricity-generating plant that I had worked at and left at the end of last year is going to be shut down ASAP. The plant manager figured they had 4-5 years left, but economics and political pressure had other ideas.
Feel bad for my former plant mates, as some of them are nowhere near retirement age and will probably struggle to find anything like what they were doing (and earning) there, at least in this area.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 10, 2021 8:44:16 GMT -5
Just found out, totally through happenstance, that the coal-fired electricity-generating plant that I had worked at and left at the end of last year is going to be shut down ASAP. The plant manager figured they had 4-5 years left, but economics and political pressure had other ideas. Feel bad for my former plant mates, as some of them are nowhere near retirement age and will probably struggle to find anything like what they were doing (and earning) there, at least in this area. Youch. Sucks for them, but glad you were able to find something else and move on before you were caught in the pinch. -M
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Post by Batflunkie on Jun 11, 2021 9:32:14 GMT -5
Well, it's full on summer down where we live now. Usually seeing tons of baby frogs hopping around our driveway and dragonflies fighting over our pond is a good sign
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Post by Icctrombone on Jun 15, 2021 19:03:44 GMT -5
I've only ever blocked 2 people since I've been in this Forum. I'm considering number 3...
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