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Post by chadwilliam on Nov 9, 2019 1:20:46 GMT -5
Hi Everyone how is everybody? I hope you all are doing well. Me well with my dad passing away in October some days are worse than others. My mom lost her prescription meds yesterday we looked everywhere for them my conclusion was, She must of thrown them out by accident So we got that refilled today thankfully her doctor understood. As did her insurance company . Her memory has been very bad since my dad passed away it worries me but i know it's all a part of grieving , Although her memory was bad some before my dad died. My dads birthday is coming up soon on November 13th he would of been 79 years old. I Wish he could of made it through the holidays and his and my moms birthday her's was last month. We will be going out to eat for thanksgiving this year the first year ever that my mom didn't make dinner. but with her being 75 my dad said she needed to not do it anymore. makes her sad but it will be okay in the end. I'm sorry to hear this and I hope that those days which "are worse than others" become fewer and fewer in number. I also hope that you don't find yourself focusing too much on wishing that your dad could have reached various milestones though of course, it's understandable why you would. I tend to look at death from the perspective that it hurts those who go on far more than the person who has passed on. It's a bizarre and maybe even selfish sentiment but I think about all the people your father must have been over his 78 years and how the majority of them didn't pass away but instead simply got to transition into someone else. I remember seeing photos of my Gigi (Ukrainian for 'grandfather') who passed away when I was 16. The photos were part of a display my parents put up when celebrating their 50th anniversary and so captured him at various stages throughout his life - as a young working man, as a first time and later second time father, as a sports enthusiast, etc, etc. Of course, there were pictures of him towards the end of his life (and even these saw him in another stage of his life since his youngest son had recently given him another grandchild shortly before his passing) and I thought, "you know, as much as I miss him and as melancholy as my thoughts sometimes are, I'm not looking at a person who died in these pictures. I'm looking at someone who faded and transformed into a father and that person faded and transformed into a grandfather and that person faded and transformed into a guy who worked in a meat cutting plant to spending his retirement as a local institution as Winnipeg Blue Bomber games which he attended almost non-stop for 50 years. That guy in these pictures is safe - that guy has so much ahead of him". It would be like mourning somebody's five year old self or 20 or 50 or whatever year old self when they pass on in their 70's. I don't know if I'm writing these words clearly or not or even if they're all that relevant to what you're going through and I certainly hope they don't come across as a dismissive "ah, you'll be fine", but as painful as it must be to think of your father's recent passing, he got to be so many different people during his life that I suspect that if you could have somehow asked him at the start if he'd want to go through with life knowing that he'd get to experience so many things and be so many people, he wouldn't hesitate to say 'Yes' understanding that that final version of himself would someday pass on. I am sorry that things aren't going well with your mother either. It must feel like one gut punch after another and I hope you've got other family around to keep you company. I also hope you'll find time to keep posting here as I always enjoy reading your thoughts (that kind of sounds weird but you know what I mean).
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2019 7:49:31 GMT -5
Hi Everyone how is everybody? I hope you all are doing well. Me well with my dad passing away in October some days are worse than others. My mom lost her prescription meds yesterday we looked everywhere for them my conclusion was, She must of thrown them out by accident So we got that refilled today thankfully her doctor understood. As did her insurance company . Her memory has been very bad since my dad passed away it worries me but i know it's all a part of grieving , Although her memory was bad some before my dad died. My dads birthday is coming up soon on November 13th he would of been 79 years old. I Wish he could of made it through the holidays and his and my moms birthday her's was last month. We will be going out to eat for thanksgiving this year the first year ever that my mom didn't make dinner. but with her being 75 my dad said she needed to not do it anymore. makes her sad but it will be okay in the end. Hang in there and I understand what you are going through and hoping that things will be better by the year end and 2020 will be comforting year for you and wish that you'll smooth things out for your own benefit. I'll be thinking of you ALWAYS.
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Post by wickedmountain on Nov 10, 2019 11:30:12 GMT -5
Hi Everyone how is everybody? I hope you all are doing well. Me well with my dad passing away in October some days are worse than others. My mom lost her prescription meds yesterday we looked everywhere for them my conclusion was, She must of thrown them out by accident So we got that refilled today thankfully her doctor understood. As did her insurance company . Her memory has been very bad since my dad passed away it worries me but i know it's all a part of grieving , Although her memory was bad some before my dad died. My dads birthday is coming up soon on November 13th he would of been 79 years old. I Wish he could of made it through the holidays and his and my moms birthday her's was last month. We will be going out to eat for thanksgiving this year the first year ever that my mom didn't make dinner. but with her being 75 my dad said she needed to not do it anymore. makes her sad but it will be okay in the end. I'm sorry to hear this and I hope that those days which "are worse than others" become fewer and fewer in number. I also hope that you don't find yourself focusing too much on wishing that your dad could have reached various milestones though of course, it's understandable why you would. I tend to look at death from the perspective that it hurts those who go on far more than the person who has passed on. It's a bizarre and maybe even selfish sentiment but I think about all the people your father must have been over his 78 years and how the majority of them didn't pass away but instead simply got to transition into someone else. I remember seeing photos of my Gigi (Ukrainian for 'grandfather') who passed away when I was 16. The photos were part of a display my parents put up when celebrating their 50th anniversary and so captured him at various stages throughout his life - as a young working man, as a first time and later second time father, as a sports enthusiast, etc, etc. Of course, there were pictures of him towards the end of his life (and even these saw him in another stage of his life since his youngest son had recently given him another grandchild shortly before his passing) and I thought, "you know, as much as I miss him and as melancholy as my thoughts sometimes are, I'm not looking at a person who died in these pictures. I'm looking at someone who faded and transformed into a father and that person faded and transformed into a grandfather and that person faded and transformed into a guy who worked in a meat cutting plant to spending his retirement as a local institution as Winnipeg Blue Bomber games which he attended almost non-stop for 50 years. That guy in these pictures is safe - that guy has so much ahead of him". It would be like mourning somebody's five year old self or 20 or 50 or whatever year old self when they pass on in their 70's. I don't know if I'm writing these words clearly or not or even if they're all that relevant to what you're going through and I certainly hope they don't come across as a dismissive "ah, you'll be fine", but as painful as it must be to think of your father's recent passing, he got to be so many different people during his life that I suspect that if you could have somehow asked him at the start if he'd want to go through with life knowing that he'd get to experience so many things and be so many people, he wouldn't hesitate to say 'Yes' understanding that that final version of himself would someday pass on. I am sorry that things aren't going well with your mother either. It must feel like one gut punch after another and I hope you've got other family around to keep you company. I also hope you'll find time to keep posting here as I always enjoy reading your thoughts (that kind of sounds weird but you know what I mean). Thank you my friend and for your insightful insight . I never really looked at it that way before so thank you .
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Post by wickedmountain on Nov 10, 2019 11:32:49 GMT -5
Hi Everyone how is everybody? I hope you all are doing well. Me well with my dad passing away in October some days are worse than others. My mom lost her prescription meds yesterday we looked everywhere for them my conclusion was, She must of thrown them out by accident So we got that refilled today thankfully her doctor understood. As did her insurance company . Her memory has been very bad since my dad passed away it worries me but i know it's all a part of grieving , Although her memory was bad some before my dad died. My dads birthday is coming up soon on November 13th he would of been 79 years old. I Wish he could of made it through the holidays and his and my moms birthday her's was last month. We will be going out to eat for thanksgiving this year the first year ever that my mom didn't make dinner. but with her being 75 my dad said she needed to not do it anymore. makes her sad but it will be okay in the end. Hang in there and I understand what you are going through and hoping that things will be better by the year end and 2020 will be comforting year for you and wish that you'll smooth things out for your own benefit. I'll be thinking of you ALWAYS. Hi friend and thank you so much means a lot to me . Thank you i hope it goes better too for me. I hope you are doing good to my friend .
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2019 11:45:23 GMT -5
Hang in there and I understand what you are going through and hoping that things will be better by the year end and 2020 will be comforting year for you and wish that you'll smooth things out for your own benefit. I'll be thinking of you ALWAYS. Hi friend and thank you so much means a lot to me . Thank you i hope it goes better too for me. I hope you are doing good to my friend . I have been busy too working with my club that I run and all that ... This club is 190 members strong and go on trips, dinners, and have other fun stuff to do and play with my grand nieces and grand nephews too.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2019 7:10:17 GMT -5
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Post by EdoBosnar on Nov 15, 2019 8:36:27 GMT -5
Not a qualified biologist/zoologist or even a hunter or anything, but to my layman's ear it sounds mostly like it could be a wolf (or a big dog). Of course, it's hard to tell how far off it is, although as far as I know, a wolf's howls can be heard from pretty far off if the conditions are right. Of course, there's all this speculation that it's a Sasquatch, which is silly. We all know this is what Sasquatch sounds like:
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Post by Prince Hal on Nov 15, 2019 10:50:45 GMT -5
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Nov 15, 2019 15:32:40 GMT -5
Of course, there's all this speculation that it's a Sasquatch, which is silly. Unless it's a sasquatch stepping on a Lego!
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Post by Slam_Bradley on Nov 15, 2019 16:12:12 GMT -5
Of course, there's all this speculation that it's a Sasquatch, which is silly.
It's obviously a Chupacabra on vacation.
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Post by Prince Hal on Nov 15, 2019 16:26:49 GMT -5
Of course, there's all this speculation that it's a Sasquatch, which is silly.
It's obviously a Chupacabra on vacation. Or Nessie, lost on her way back to Scotland.
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Post by Duragizer on Nov 16, 2019 1:30:44 GMT -5
'Tis no sasquatch, and no foreign cryptid on vacation. 'Tis a wendigo, on the prowl for humans to consume.
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Nov 16, 2019 9:03:36 GMT -5
Cryptid tourism is still an underexploited business opportunity.
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Post by beccabear67 on Nov 16, 2019 15:04:04 GMT -5
I say it's the sound of Don Cherry's biggest fan learning he has been fired from Hockey Night In Canada yet again. (Canadian in-joke)
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Nov 17, 2019 5:36:36 GMT -5
I say it's the sound of Don Cherry's biggest fan learning he has been fired from Hockey Night In Canada yet again. (Canadian in-joke) As far as I’m concerned, you win the internet for the day!!!
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